Blog – Tuesdays with Mary

Tuesdays With Mary: Honoring Mary O’Donnell

Tuesday, Sept 9, 2025 Last week, our industry lost a true leader with the unexpected passing of Mary O’Donnell of Westcor. Mary was more than a successful executive—she was a woman of vision, integrity, and heart. She led with clarity and conviction, always keeping the future of our industry in view while never losing sight of the people who make it run. I remember her grace and grit, her laugh, and her sparkly eyes that held more than a bit of orneriness, too. Those who worked with her speak not only of her business acumen but also of her generosity, [...]

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Tuesdays With Mary – Why the Mortgage Market Matters Right Now

Tuesday, August 26, 2025 The housing and mortgage markets have always been central to the American economy, but right now they’re shifting in ways that demand close attention. Affordability, inventory, interest rates, negative equity, tappable equity, and borrower behavior are all moving pieces in a puzzle that affects lenders, real estate professionals, and consumers alike. In moments like this, data isn’t just helpful — it’s essential. The difference between reacting late and preparing early often comes down to who’s watching the market most closely, and how well they understand the signals behind the numbers. That’s why I’m especially excited about [...]

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Tuesdays With Mary: The Room We Share

Tuesday, August 19, 2025 There’s a strange thing about community — it works best when you don’t agree on everything. I’ve been thinking lately about what keeps a group of very different people from turning into opponents. It’s not the sameness of opinion; it’s the sameness of agreement about the rules that let us live together. Think about the rules of the road. Some people like to drive fast, some slow. Some love big trucks, some drive little hybrids. None of that really matters so long as we all agree to stop at red lights and stay on our side [...]

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Tuesdays With Mary: The Mid-Year Goal Reset

Tuesday, August 12, 2025 We’re far enough into the year that January’s shiny optimism has dulled. The wall calendar has flipped more than a few pages, life’s curveballs have taken their swings, and those big, ambitious goals we set back in the cold months may be quietly collecting dust. Here’s the thing—now is a perfect time to dust them off, pick two or three that truly matter to you or to your organization, and commit to finishing them strong. Not “maybe.” Not “if I have time.” Make it known…to your team, your friends, your family—that you’re going to knock these [...]

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How to Know You’ve Stayed Somewhere Long Enough to Belong

Tuesday, August 5, 2025 There’s a moment, not marked on any calendar, when a place shifts from somewhere you’re in to somewhere you’re of. It doesn’t come with balloons or a banner. Most of the time, you don’t even notice it until after it’s already happened. You just look up one day and realize: Your co-worker’s last name that you used to have to effort through pronouncing just rolls smoothly off your tongue. You flick on the correct light switch in a series without even thinking. You know the shortcut that saves two stoplights, but only if you turn just [...]

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Tuesdays With Mary: The Things I No Longer Pretend to Care About

Tuesday, July 29, 2025 At a certain point in life, you stop pretending. You stop pretending you like kale. You stop pretending you want to attend that 8:00 p.m. event that “should only last a couple hours.” You stop pretending you’re excited about the group chat. Somewhere between your mid-40s and early 50s, a glorious shift happens: your Give-A-Damn meter breaks in all the right ways. So in the spirit of midlife clarity, here’s a short (but ever-growing) list of things I no longer pretend to care about: Uncomfortable clothes. If I have to shimmy, tug, suck in, or re-adjust [...]

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Tuesdays with Mary: When the Map No Longer Matches the Place

Tuesday, July 22, 2025 There’s a kind of disorientation that happens when you return to a place you once knew by heart — and realize your internal map doesn’t work anymore. I’m in my mother’s hometown this week. It’s the county seat where my maternal grandparents lived; my grandpa was the fire chief.  It’s where my siblings and cousins once spent Thanksgivings and summer stretches, where large family reunions were held at the fairgrounds, and where many of my core childhood memories seem to reside. It’s a place I still love, both for its own charm and for the people [...]

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Tuesdays with Mary: Give Better Than You Got

Tuesday, July 15, 2025 We’ve all heard the phrase “give better than you got,” but usually it’s delivered with a slightly raised eyebrow — part challenge, part consolation, and sometimes a quiet warning. Maybe someone was unfair to you, so you’re being encouraged to break the cycle. Or maybe you're being reminded of how much more is possible when you respond with grace instead of grudge. I’ve started to see it differently, not just as a reaction to poor treatment, but as a philosophy. A way of showing up that doesn’t wait to be earned. It's easy…natural, even — to [...]

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Tuesdays with Mary: What to know about FinCEN reporting requirements for real estate transactions

Tuesday, July 8, 2025 Big changes are coming to non-financed real estate transactions. It will impact more than just title & settlement agents or real estate attorneys. Estate planning attorneys, trust departments, wealth management advisors and financial planners all need to know the new rules of the game. We’ve brought in guest blogger, Ruth Dillingham, Esq. & NTP to share the 411 with you in today’s blog. She’ll also be featured on the Keys to Real Estate podcast episode on Thursday, July 10. It’s never too soon to start planning for this massive new FinCEN requirement that becomes effective December [...]

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Tuesdays With Mary: This Is How We Heal the World

Tuesday, July 1, 2025 If you’ve never been to Ravinia Festival, it’s worth the trip. I should clarify that Ravinia Festival is a place, not a multi-day event.  Nestled in the trees just north of Chicago, Ravinia has been hosting music lovers since 1904 — the oldest outdoor music festival in the country. But it’s more than that. It’s a ritual. You bring your own picnic. You set up on the lawn. You open a bottle of wine. And then, as the sun sets and the cicadas hum, the music begins. Ravinia has hosted legends across generations — from classical [...]

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